Use JCTools 3.0 + do not break on shaded jars API changes (should not be used by downstream) (#9920)

Motivation:

Use latest JCTools, bug fixes etc.

Modification:

Change pom to depend on 3.0.0 version, and ignore shaded jar API changes

Result:

Using newer JCTools

pom.xml

@@ -508,7 +508,7 @@
       <dependency>
         <groupId>org.jctools</groupId>
         <artifactId>jctools-core</artifactId>
-        <version>2.1.1</version>
+        <version>3.0.0</version>
       </dependency>
 
       <dependency>
@@ -724,6 +724,7 @@
             </ignoreMissingClassesByRegularExpressions>
             <excludes>
               <exclude>@io.netty.util.internal.UnstableApi</exclude>
+              <exclude>io.netty.util.internal.shaded</exclude>
             </excludes>
           </parameter>
           <skip>${skipJapicmp}</skip>